Femmethology author Stacie Seaman by the sea

Femmethology Author Stacia Seaman

[F]emme to me is something that’s always growing and changing as I grow and change. It’s about being comfortable in my own skin, despite the changes that occur inside and out.

How do you define your femme identity?

I don’t know that I do. To define it would limit it, and femme to me is something that’s always growing and changing as I grow and change. It’s about being comfortable in my own skin, despite the changes that occur inside and out.

How do other identities you have not only intersect with femme but also contradict it?

Throughout my childhood I was considered a tomboy, a book nerd, a math/science geek. Those are other identities I’ve learned to embrace as a part of, but not all of, who I am.

What are some joys of being femme?

The single biggest joy is that I finally know who I am-it’s easy, it’s comfortable, and it’s empowering. I love lingerie and makeup and old faded soft men’s jeans, and I celebrate the contradictions instead of trying to force myself into someone’s idea of feminine. I’m part of a community, a strong community with a strong sense of its history and its power, and that is amazing as well.

What role does writing play in community-building for you?

Writing is everything. It’s opened up new worlds for me and taken me to places I never could have gone otherwise.

How does it feel to be part of the Femmethologies?

It’s fantastic. I’m thrilled and proud to be part of this project!

Femme is _____ (one word only, please).

Sexy.